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Getting
it off your chest
The conventional wisdom about anger says that bottling it up causes emotional
and even physical woes. The wisdom is rooted in the idea that catharsis
-- an emotional outburst -- can cleanse the soul. Aristotle mentioned
catharsis way back when ancient Greece was modern Greece.
Brad
Bushman, who studies catharsis and anger at Iowa State University, says
that in the 19th century, Sigmund Freud, Dr. Psychoanalysis himself, maintained
that when people "repressed negative emotions, they would surface as psychological
symptoms. He argued that if you were angry, you should not repress it,
but express, it."
The argument that
pent-up anger can explode into aggressive rage has gained widespread acceptance
in American culture. But in laboratory experiments, whacking a punching
bag or attacking a pillow actually seems to increase anger, not tame it,
Bushman has found. "It's been tested several times, and there's virtually
no scientific evidence to support catharsis."
In
a boiling rage
More ominously, Bushman says expressing or ventilating anger also seems
to increase aggression. In his experiments, students got steamed up when
the experimenters insulted their writing. Then they had a chance to zap
the experimenter with a loud noise; willingness to zap indicated more
aggression.
Even though hitting
a punching bag supposedly exorcises anger, punching made the students
more likely to hit the buzz button. In fact, these participants set the
noise about twice as loud and twice as long as those who did not hit the
bag.
Further flouting
the catharsis theory, they were actually less likely to hit the buzz button
if they sat quietly for two minutes after insults about their writing
sent them into a hissy fit.
The participants
did enjoy the acting-out exercise. More than 70 percent of those who hit
the punching bag say "they love it, it makes them feel better," says Bushman,
"but it's really interesting ... the more they like it, the more aggressive
they are" (see "Catharsis, Aggression..." in the bibliography).
That feeling may
explain why catharsis retains credibility, but Bushman says two other
factors also play a role:
Freud's
pronouncements still have some credibility even though they were rooted
in the psychoanalyst's experience with upper-class Europeans, not modern
psychological science.
The
media. Bushman argues that publicly raising Cain is a staple of pop
culture. In the movie "Analyze This," he says, "Billy Crystal, as a psychiatrist,
tells Robert Deniro, 'When I'm angry, I hit a pillow, why don't you
try it?' So you have this professional advocating hitting a pillow to
get rid of anger." Indeed, Bushman found that students who had read
an article extolling the benefits of ventilating anger were more aggressive
after whacking a punching bag in comparison to students who read a different
article.
Whether ventilation
works -- or is just a mass of hot air -- mass marketers seem eager to
profit from belief in the notion, Bushman adds, with such items as an inflatable
dummy with a pocket to hold a picture of your enemy, and a "tension shooter"
that shoots rubber bands at targets labeled "boss," "taxman," and "mother-in-law."
Bushman
suggests some common-sense tactics for reducing anger:



Nonetheless, the
"let it all hang out" philosophy of dealing with anger remains popular.
"It's surprising how reluctant people are to believe our research," Bushman
says. "I get calls from psychotherapists, they're angry, (they) tell me my research
is wrong. I ask for some evidence that venting anger works, but there
is none. This idea is so integrated into popular culture that people are
reluctant to give it up."
Reinventing
venting
Not so fast, says Deborah Cox, a feminist psychologist and assistant professor
in counseling at Southwest Missouri State College. She argues that laboratory
studies like Bushman's only show what happens in the short term, and while
venting may prolong anger and increase symptoms of aggression for a while,
in the long term it may help identify deep-seated problems. To do so,
the emotional display should meet two criteria, she says.
Venting
must be conscious, "not just flailing your arms. If it's focused, you
can sit down and become aware of who we're angry with and why. What
are the deeper implications of being injured by this person?"
Venting
must encourage awareness of the relationship that produces the anger.
Not helpful is the "detached venting" that occurs when a tired parent
returns from work with a burr under the saddle and thrashes out against
an innocent child. Says Cox, "It's misplaced, taken out of the relationship
where the anger resides."
A
third characteristic for positive venting, says Steven Korner, a psychologist
in New Jersey, is having the right audience. "Emotions are catching, like
colds. If a kid says 'I want to kill him!', that may scare the heck out
of a parent, but the kid is only talking. You have to tolerate emotion
for venting to be good." Much better, he adds, would be for the parent
to respond, "I know what you're saying, I've felt that way myself."
The argument over
venting rests on a simple distinction, Korner says. "There's a difference
between feeling something and doing something. ... the feeling part only
becomes a problem if you can't hold the feeling."
Something stuck
in your craw? Maybe you need anger management.
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