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Marriage: A panacea?
2. Good for the old
folks?
3. Is bridal sweet?
4. Love for sale?

Marriage of Mr and Mrs Witham, which took
place at St Margaret's Church, Barking, in about 1913. Photo: The
London Borough of Barking & Dagenham

The National Survey of Family Growth tracked
marriage rates among women who had a first child inside or outside
marriage. In all groups, bearing a first child while married was
associated with much higher rates of marriage later in life.
Data from "Is Marriage a Panacea..." (see
bibliography).
Newlyweds cut cake, mutter "Cheese!"
for trillionth time.
Photo: (c)
Paul Toepfer Photography |
Back in the 1950s, when Father
Knew Best, you hardly read a negative word about marriage. It
was the foundation of a stable society, the birthplace of healthy,
productive kids, the linchpin of civilization.
At least, it was ubiquitous: In 1950, only
4 percent of American kids were born outside marriage.
But in the 1960s, some feminists and advocates
of "human potential" began to see marriage as patriarchy, even slavery
for women. In 1972, feminist scholar Jesse Bernard argued that while
marriage made men healthier in the head, it made women sicker, upstairs.
Her argument helped found a critique of marriage
as good for guys but murder on mothers (and women in general).
Since the 1950s, that critique, along with
many other economic and social forces, sparked plunging rates of
marriage and soaring rates of divorce. Half a century later, marriage
is no longer a given for children: About 33 percent of American
kids are born outside wedlock, and roughly half of all kids will
spend some time in a single-parent family.
Over the past decade, these statistics have spawned a counter-revolution.
Based partly on traditional values and religious beliefs, and partly
on convincing social-science studies of the benefits of marriage,
the counter-revolutionaries argue that if you are looking for healthy,
secure adults, and healthy, secure kids, you gotta look into marriage.
In short, they say, it's not just the fellas
who benefit from a trip to the hitching post, but kids and even
women as well.
These critics scorn those who would bridle
the bridal path.
Today, a raft of statistics show that marriage
is, on average, good for all three parties:
Good for your bod: Unmarried (including divorced, single
and widowed) people are "far more likely to die from all causes,
including coronary heart disease, stroke, pneumonia, many kinds
of cancer, cirrhosis of the liver, automobile accidents, murder
and suicide -- all leading causes of death," according to Linda
Waite, a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago,
and author of "The Case for Marriage..." (see bibliography).
Good for your bean: Married people have lower
rates of suicide, depression, and other mental disorders.
Good for your bottom line: The average married
couple has far more than twice the income and net worth of the
average single person. A couple can live cheaper than two single
people, and the average married man earns more and works harder
than the average single man.
Good for your brood: Married couples have more
time and money to devote to their kids. They also have a broader
range of talents, interests and social connections. As a result,
their kids tend to be healthier, more secure, better educated,
and more likely to succeed in school, in the workforce, and in
their own relationships.

Emulating Bernard's influential 1972 book (see
"The Future..." in the bibliography).
much of the skepticism and hostility to marriage focused on its
supposed harm to the mental health of women. In recent years, that
view has faded, under the impact of studies like one reported in 2002 by David de Vaus.
His study of 10,641 Australian adults found
that each sex had its characteristic mental disorders: While men
swilled booze and snarfed other drugs, women suffered from mood
and anxiety disorders. For neither sex, however, did problems appear
more often among the married.
Wow! In many ways, de Vaus's data read like
a testament to the marital vow:
Married men and women were least likely to have mental disorders.
Separated or divorced people were most likely to have mood or
anxiety disorders.
Adults who had never married were most likely to have substance-abuse
problems.
The women who had least risk of a mental disorder were married
and working with kids at home.
Married, full-time mothers had only a slightly higher rate of
mental disorders.
The highest rate of mental disorder was among men without marriage,
job or children.
While these findings contradict the gloomy
assessment of Jesse Bernard, de Vaus noted that she focused on mental
disorders that unduly affect women, skewing her results.

Marital bliss begins at the Viva Las Vegas
Wedding Chapel. Elvis photo courtesy
Viva Las Vegas Wedding
Chapel.
Evidence keeps piling up. In September, for
example, Health Psychology published a 13-year study (see "Marital
Status......" in the bibliography) on
the cardiovascular impact of marriage in middle-aged women.
A satisfying marriage was associated with healthier levels of cholesterol
and blood pressure, and with fewer of the psychosocial factors linked
to cardiovascular disease, like depression, anxiety and anger.
Photo: (c)
Paul Toepfer Photography
These health advantages tended to disappear
in poor marriages. Thus studies that have not found a health advantage
among married women may have failed to distinguished healthy from
unhealthy marriages.
When we focus on happiness, the marriage picture
is equally gratifying. In general, according to Waite, happiness
fits marriage like a wedding band fits a ring finger: "The happiness
advantage of married people is very large and quite similar for
men and women and appears in every country on which we have information"
(p. 168, "The Case ..." in the bibliography).
One warning: Everything we have reported is
statistical data. And statistics apply to groups, not individuals.
But does the data prove that marriage
is good for men and women?
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